In our culture, crying is often misunderstood. Many of us have heard phrases like, “Don’t cry, be strong,” or “Crying is a sign of weakness.” But as a clinical psychologist, I want to share a different truth: crying is one of the most natural, healing responses our body and mind have to emotional pain, stress, and even joy.
Why Do We Cry?
We cry not only when we feel sadness or grief but also in moments of relief, overwhelm, frustration, or even happiness. Psychologically and biologically, tears serve many important purposes:
· Emotional release: Crying helps release built-up emotional tension that words alone can’t express.
· Stress reduction: When we cry, our body releases stress hormones and toxins, helping us feel calmer afterward.
· Self-soothing: Crying activates the parasympathetic nervous system — our body’s “rest and digest” mode — helping us regain balance.
Crying Is Not Weakness — It’s Courage
But people often hesitate to cry. They worry about being judged or losing control. But I encourage them to see tears as a sign of strength, not weakness. Allowing yourself to cry means you are in touch with your feelings and willing to face them — a vital step in healing.
What Happens When You Hold Back Tears?
Suppressing tears can have emotional and physical consequences:
A Gentle Invitation
If you feel overwhelmed, stuck, or weighed down by emotions, remember — it’s okay to cry. It’s okay to be vulnerable. Tears can open the door to healing, connection, and self-compassion.
You are not alone in your feelings, and you don’t have to carry them silently.
Still You, Evolving.
If you find it hard to express or understand your emotions, therapy can help you embrace your tears as part of your strength.
Warmly,
Shagun Katoch
Clinical Psychologist | The Light
